{"id":1481,"date":"2013-05-31T12:16:57","date_gmt":"2013-05-31T16:16:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.positivelyparenting.com\/?p=1481"},"modified":"2015-12-03T08:40:55","modified_gmt":"2015-12-03T13:40:55","slug":"book-give-away-woohoo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mlparentcoach.com\/new\/parenting\/book-give-away-woohoo\/","title":{"rendered":"Book Give-Away! Woohoo!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\"Day<\/a>Last fall, I (luckily) found and read the book\u00a0Duct Tape Parenting, A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectfu<\/a><\/em>l, Responsible, and Resilient Kids<\/a>\u00a0<\/em>by Vicki Hoefle. \u00a0Talk about a game-changer! \u00a0It instantly spoke to me about the power to\u00a0staying quiet, as well as allowing\u00a0our children to grow resilience by\u00a0figuring things out on their own.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I instantly decided to band-aid my mouth shut for five mornings in a row. \u00a0It was fascinating, eye-opening, and yes, oddly relieving to\u00a0stop the nagging,\u00a0<\/strong>reminding, and constant<\/strong>\u00a0talking<\/strong>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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So, in the spirit of LOVING this book, Vicki has been gracious enough to allow me to do a BOOK GIVE-AWAY!<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

I want all of you to read the following FIVE DAY CHALLENGE, leave a comment below, and I will pick a winner\u00a0JUNE 7th<\/span>! \u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

The lucky winner will win a copy of\u00a0Duct Tape Parenting, A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids!<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

If you are interested in listening to an interview Vicki and I did about my “Say Nothing, Do Nothing” Experiment, listen here<\/a>!<\/p>\n

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Duct Tape is not Just for Quick Fixes, Anymore!<\/b><\/p>\n

That\u2019s right, you\u2019ve guessed it. I\u2019m going to change how you look at Duct Tape. I am going to suggest you start thinking about what ONE roll of duct tape can do for your parenting experience.<\/p>\n

First, let\u2019s take a second to think about you and your kids. I don\u2019t know your children, but you know them very well, so go ahead and think about them in action. Now think about you in action as the parent. What seems to go smoothly (bedtime routine?) and what seems to fall apart every single time (morning routine?). Now, think about your favorite parenting strategy. Do you have one? I bet you do, but you might not even know it. You might think, well, I don\u2019t use anything consistently, but yelling, nagging, reminding, lecturing, and all those reactive habits are strategies that you use every day to try and change your children\u2019s behavior. How is it working for you? Are you implementing strategies that are creating long-term change, facilitating strong independent confident, capable children? If not, here\u2019s where the duct tape comes in handy.<\/p>\n

Another use for Duct Tape<\/b><\/p>\n

Imagine sitting down with your kids and telling them you are sorry. You are sorry for all the bossing, dictating, controlling and micro-managing you have been doing and that you are really sorry for treating them as though they are incompetent. Tell them you are going to step back for five days and observe and watch what they can do by themselves and identify where they could benefit from some training. Ask them how they would like to wake-up in the am. An alarm clock, alarm on a phone, the sun streaming in the window? The choice is theirs. Tell them you will be taking a piece of duct tape and putting it right over your mouth, to help you break your old habit of jumping in and nagging, reminding, lecturing, bribing and so on. What would happen if you were unable to remind them what to be doing, thinking, or saying all day long? Now sit in a chair. Imagine you\u2019re duct taped there. You cannot run into the living room with every little spat. You can\u2019t carry backpacks, or bring shoes for kids who left them at home. You can\u2019t clean the entire house. In fact, all you can do is sit there, accept what\u2019s happening around you, learn what your kids are capable of, where they could use some training and where you will start on your journey to raising respectful, responsible, & resilient kids.<\/p>\n

When and why would a parent do this?<\/b><\/p>\n

When your child decides to wear fleece pants to school in August and learns a valuable lesson, you can nod and say nothing (instead of \u201cI told you so\u201d), because personal experience is the BEST teacher.<\/p>\n

When your child has a temper tantrum in the kitchen, you quietly leave the room, instead of getting down on the floor and joining her. (We all know adult temper tantrums are much worse.)<\/p>\n

When your child forgets his lunch you quietly have faith that he has what it takes to be a little hungry, solve the problem, and remember the next time. (If we want children to believe in themselves, we must believe in them first.)<\/p>\n

This, my friends, is the best gift you can give yourself, and it\u2019s the gift that you can give your children. I challenge you to learn to \u201cduct tape\u201d yourself out of all the nonsense that goes along with raising children. With this one gift of duct tape, you can give your kids the golden gift of learning independence, problem solving, failure, forgetting, learning, asking, remembering, discovering, unfolding, realizing, trying something new and creating a life that is their own. In one year, imagine the difference.<\/p>\n

Consider the Duct Tape Parenting pledge<\/b><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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As a Duct Tape Parent, I pledge to<\/p>\n