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Q: <\/b><\/i>My 5-year-old is insanely jealous of her 22-month-old sister. Everything her little sister has, she wants. Everything that little sister wants, she also wants. Big sister said she wanted a certain ice cream flavor but when little sister said she wanted a different ice cream, big sister said she changed her mind and wanted little sister\u2019s flavor (even though big sister had been talking about her own flavor all day). I tell big sister that her choices are what she wants and she needs to be confident in her choices. I say she is her own person and does not need to be like her little sister. What else can I do?<\/i><\/p>\n

A: <\/b>Thank you for writing in; almost every parent of two or more children will deal with some jealousy between siblings, so know that you are not alone. And while sibling jealousy can be fairly typical, it can also cause serious damage in families. Ask a few people about sibling jealousy, and you will hear terrible stories of anger and heartbreak. Worst of all, these immature jealousies can easily bloom into rivalries that ruin sibling relationships. I am not trying to scare you, but I am letting you know that if the jealous child doesn\u2019t seem to be outgrowing their envy, how you handle it can matter in the long run.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also important that you know that you can \u201cequally\u201d parent your two children, and jealousy still occurs. You can literally measure out amounts of snacks and count turns, for instance, and jealousy blooms. Why? Because parents are the sun that children orbit and once there is more than one planet, competition can ensue. It\u2019s a simple numbers game. Remember: We humans have spent thousands of years living with our people and villages \u2014 there was always another adult or older child to parent a child. That has changed. Now, there are fewer people to focus attention on the children, and children are more focused on getting the attention of a parent. A natural, \u201cshe\u2019s mine, no she\u2019s mine<\/i>\u201d dynamic can develop.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going to give you advice that seems contradictory, but if you don\u2019t think too much, it makes sense. The first move is always to strengthen your relationship with your child, so sit with your 5-year-old and create a fun \u201cto play\u201d list (a twist on to-do). Let your imaginations fly and when the list is finished, you can both start circling the things you can actually do. Choose a day or days, and commit to this time and activity with just <\/i>your 5-year-old. As you show up and play with this child, you will watch her bloom with your attention, joy and fun. Without any competing attachments, she will rest in her relationship with you. These special dates are also a time to listen to her whine and complain. Yes, you heard that right. It\u2019s wonderful to make room by saying, \u201cI bet it is sometimes hard to be a big sister \u2026\u201d and see what she says. By simply listening, you are […]<\/p>\n

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